Premature ejaculation is the most common sexual dysfunction which occurs in men. Probably all of you can perfectly imagine how embarrassing it is to be naked in bed with a lovely girl while she obviously looks at your soft penis after one minute intercourse. Her eyes filled up with deception and pity… Sounds familiar?
Some time ago I felt so miserable about my sexual performance that I couldn’t focus on my work and any daily activity. For some time I totally lost motivation to interact with women, because I didn’t want to see this pitiful disappointment in their eyes never again in my life!
It took me some time to entirely solve my problem and become fully satisfied from my sexual life. Before I looked through thousands resources in the Internet, facing plenty myths about premature ejaculation. The sexual issues become such a popular subject nowadays, that sometimes it is easy to lose track on what is actually true and what’s just a misunderstanding or lie.
Let’s finally reveal myths and facts about Premature Ejeculation.
MYTH #1: Premature ejaculation happens only to young and inexperienced man
FACT: Premature ejaculation is the most common sexual dysfunction among men no matter of the age
According to the 1999 NHSLS survey by Laumann et al., 30% of men ages 18-29, 32% ages 30-39, 28% ages 40-49, and 31% ages 50-59 stated that climaxing too early was an issue for them. I know that some of you were hoping that age would slow things down, but if the ailment stays untreated, the matters will not get better themselves. There are men who are going through divorce or simply been incapable of starting any physical relationships because of their condition.
MYTH #2: Long penetration is a crucial part of sex
FACT: More than half of sex is mental.
Brain is the most important sexual organ, which is especially true for women. Didn’t you notice that female porn stars rarely experience orgasm despite long, intense penetration? That’s because sex isn’t just physical – most of it occurs within the mind. That means that even if you WERE able to penetrate her for hours there’s no guarantee that she’ll like it or even experience an orgasm.
The average time it takes a woman to reach orgasm is 10-15 minutes. But you can drastically improve that timeframe if you arouse her with foreplay and stimulate in various ways (not just vaginal). If you want to be an amazing lover, you need to be phenomenal at foreplay and make sure that your partner gets enough of the emotional support and cuddling.
MYTH #3: Watching porn doesn’t influence your performance in bed
FACT: Porn Consumption train you to cum too early
Watching adult videos impacts dopamine production the hormone responsible for controlling your ejaculation reflex. If you watch porn excessively you teach yourself to come too quickly developing bad habits especially if you start at a very early age. The access to all kinds of a variety of sexual acts and fetishes can be very addictive and cause that you masturbate to quickly achieve orgasm, just to get your next dopamine rush. What’s more, by exceeded porn consumption you may build up a dopamine resistance.
While masturbating with extra stimulations as porn you can reach orgasm in a very short time, without your other senses being involved (such as touching or smelling your girlfriend body etc.) which has a different effect on your receptors.
MYTH #4: Your thoughts during sex doesn’t change how long you can last
FACT: Performance anxiety is a big endurance killer
I think we all know that feeling: You’re about to have sex with your girl and suddenly these thoughts invade your mind: “OMG, I’m already way too horny and we haven’t even started yet… What if I come too quickly again? She’ll think I’m a loser…”
If you experienced cuming too early in the past your thoughts and feelings often times they even induce premature ejaculation, resulting in a self-fulfilling prophecy. Instead of being relaxed and enjoying sex you think “OMG, I’m already way too horny… What if I come too quickly again?’ You try so much to NOT to come that you come much earlier than you would like to.
As I mentioned below, the major part of sex is mental so our habits directly influence our performance. Even men with frequent sex can get extra-aroused, because in his mind he is trained to cum too early. Reducing anxiety and limiting stress in general work differently for everyone. There are several methods to rewire your mind to have better sex, through hypnosis, NLP or meditation.
MYTH #5: It`s not possible to teach yourself to stay longer without taking pills
FACT: You can rewire your brain and train your “Sex-Muscles” With Kegel Exercises
It is totally possible to entirely solve a problem of premature ejaculation. However it requires some time and a complex approach, regarding your mental and physical habits. Performing Kegel exercises, which were designed to train your pelvic floor muscles brings numerous benefits like greater control over ejaculation and enhanced sexual functions.
Contrary to most advice on the Internet, just having strong pelvic muscles won’t do anything for you. You have to know what moments to flex them and when to relax them; this will make a huge difference especially when combined with natural supplements and relaxing techniques.
Patrick Banks is a men’s sexual expert and dating advisor who believes it’s possible to control your body with the power of your mind. On his blog at Wingman Magazine, he helps men reach their full potential and achieve happiness through better social life.