There are numerous types of sex, but communication and consent is crucial in all no matter the kind of sex the parties are getting involved in. Additionally, engaging in sexual activities can lead to STDs or pregnancy, but there are methods to protect yourself.
What Is Sex?
People have different definitions of sex with some people only believing sex is when a penis goes into a vagina. Nevertheless, this does not apply to everyone, thus below are some of the different forms of sex.
- Oral Sex (mouth-to-genital contact)
- Vaginal Sex (penis-in-vagina intercourse)
- Anal Sex (penis-in-butt intercourse)
- Hand jobs or fingering (hand-to-genital contact)
- Masturbation (touching yourself)
- Genital rubbing or dry humping
No matter what sex means to you, sexual intercourse with another person comes with lots of responsibility. Therefore, just before having sex, first think about the things that you and your partner are comfortable doing while still factoring in the risks that are involved, that is, pregnancy and STDs plus how you will prevent them.
Furthermore, it is also vital to deliberate on what you are not comfortable doing and share it with your partner. Also, you can change your mind in the middle of doing something you previously had thought you would be okay doing which is acceptable.
Whether you are planning to have oral, vaginal or anal sex with your partner, first discuss with your partner on the appropriate measures you should take to protect each other from STDs. Moreover, for vaginal sex, it is vital to use birth control to prevent an unwanted pregnancy.
What Is Oral Sex?
Eating out, going down, or blow jobs are the most common names for oral sex which is you using your mouth to arouse another person’s genitals.
Whereas some people like oral sex, others do not. Additionally, some individuals like getting oral sex but not giving whereas other individuals like giving but not getting. Therefore, it all depends on your preference with all this being completely normal and fine, and you have to inform your companion on what you feel comfortable doing.
Oral sex does not lead to pregnancy, but you can contract an STD if you do not use protection. Nevertheless, the chances of getting an STD as a result of oral sex is extremely low unlike unprotected anal or vaginal sex but it is always better to stay safe. Consequently, during oral sex, you can use either dental dam or a cut-open condom to cover the vulva or anus as well as covering the penis using a condom hence preventing STDs transmission.
What Is Anal Sex?
It means penis-in-anus intercourse. Some people enjoy this type of sex whereas other individuals dislike it, but either way, it is excellent so long as you enjoy yourself. You should never let someone pressure you into having anal sex if you do not like it since, during sex, both parties should feel great and comfortable.
Furthermore, anal sex can be painful if you do not use lubricant and are not relaxed. Unlike the vagina, the anus does not make its lubrication thus utilizing a lube makes it easier for the sex toy or penis to smoothly go into the anus and keeping the condom from breaking.
Never use anything that has oil in it for instance lotion, baby oil or Vaseline since oil-based lubes tend to weaken a condom thereby increasing the chances of it breaking. There are safe lubricants that are either silicone or water-based in the condom aisle at the grocery and drug stores.
Always listen to your body and in the event anal sex or any other sex hurts you, immediately stop doing it. It is because sex which is uncomfortable and painful should never continue and your companion must respect that.
Moreover, anal sex cannot lead to pregnancy, but there is a higher chance of contracting STDs such as HIV if having unprotected anal sex. Consequently, it is crucial you always use lube and condoms to reduce your chances of contracting an STD.
What Is Vaginal Sex?
It is when the penis goes into a vagina and whereas some individuals enjoy vaginal sex while others do not. Vaginal sex alone can lead to clitoris/vulva orgasm in some individuals whereas others do not. Like all the other types of sex, everyone has their likes and dislikes; thus, it is perfectly okay to inform your partner on your preference.
Unprotected vaginal sex can lead either to pregnancy or contracting an STD. Numerous birth control method exist to help prevent unwanted pregnancy. Similarly, to anal and oral sex, condoms help in preventing the transmission of STDs during vaginal sex.
What Is an Orgasm?
The release of tension that usually happens during sex or masturbation is what is referred to as orgasm. Frequently, it feels good and can be intense. Additionally, sometimes having an orgasm is called climaxing, Cumming/coming.
There are a couple of changes to your body which you might notice during orgasms like:
- Your heart beats faster
- Your face and chest become red and warm
- Muscle spasms in your genitals
- A pleasant feeling in your genitals or across your whole body
The penis squirts a small amount of semen usually 1-2 tablespoons which is a white liquid which contains sperm and other fluids, and this is referred to as ejaculation. Sometimes, you can ejaculate without necessarily having an orgasm or have an orgasm without ejaculating, but typically they happen together.
During and before an orgasm, fluid may squirt out of the vulva, and this is occasionally called female ejaculation, and this fluid is not pee. Whereas it is less common in comparison to ejaculation out of the penis, nothing is wrong or weird if it happens to you.
Since everybody is different, there is no one “right” way for an orgasm to happen. You may be experiencing orgasms easily and quickly or may require more time or a precise type of stimulation. Moreover, you may experience an orgasm when masturbating but not when having sexual intercourse with your spouse with all these differences being perfectly reasonable. Experimentation with what makes you feel good will help you in understanding your body and what you enjoy the most.
Despite the fact people think having an orgasm is the primary goal of sex, you still can get a lot of pleasure from doing sexual things even if you do not experience an orgasm. Putting pressure on yourself to experience an orgasm can lead to anxiety both on you and your partner thereby making sex less pleasurable and stressful. Therefore, relax and remember the goal is the pleasure and not orgasms.