“Do not feed your mind with negative thoughts. If you do, you will come to believe in them” – Catherine Pulsifer
The mind is an enigmatic and powerful thing.
So powerful in fact, that it allows us to engender illusory and fabricated thoughts that would feed our anxiety. These precarious thoughts hinder us from ever being truly happy by consistently letting us believe in concocted situations that may possibly never happen. More often than not, our needless anxiety and apprehension stem from the fact that humans as we are, we often over think the little details. These ill-conceived fictional thoughts would often cause us to stress. We all have varied reactions to stress, but the general reactions are often adverse and one of these is derailing our sleep cycles.
Sleep is essential and lack of it can prevent us from having a healthy life. See how simple overthinking can affect you so much? Your thoughts, no matter how powerful and evocative they are, should not render you ineffective. This is why for every daunting negative you have, you should also have an equally compelling happy thought or at least, an effective countermeasure to nullify those thoughts. Below are just some of the few ways that you could reduce or offset these nagging negative thoughts.
1.) Stay away from toxic people
Troublesome feelings and thoughts are often influenced by surroundings and our surroundings largely depend on the kind of people we associate with. Check your circle of friends and have a brief rumination just to contemplate on the type of people they are. If you observe them whining more often and being generally negative in whatever aspect, chances are their behavior is rubbing off on you. Avoid this type of people at all costs or if you can, if that fails at least be aware that you are picking up their habits. Keep positive company, it is better for your thoughts and for yourself.
Sometimes, in order to keep away from negative thoughts, we would all need a relaxing breather which we would spend by ourselves. By meditating, we take the focus away from the negative thoughts and back to ourselves and our breaths. This enables us to relax and think rationally for a moment instead of getting ahead of ourselves. Additionally, you can do yoga which relaxes you and eases your mind as well. This is a way of training your thoughts to think of the present and the now—which is essentially the most important moment.
This is one of the easiest things you can do to keep negative thoughts at bay and cultivate positive ones. Smile and give everyone you come across a flash of your pearly whites. This would not only reinforce and foster good thoughts, but you may be inadvertently helping someone who is experiencing a difficult time or having a bad day by spreading all around positive vibes.
4.) Remind yourself of the things you are thankful for
No matter how besetting and overwhelming your negative thoughts are, you must not neglect to remember that you do still have things in life you should be grateful for. In the midst of our troubling thoughts, we would often lose sight of the things in life we are thankful for. The next time you would feel a prodding negative thought seep into your mind, take stock if these thoughts do have any bearing at all. Then you can recall what you are grateful about and pen them down in a piece of paper to remind yourself of them.
5.) Remember that no one is perfect
Everyone makes mistakes at one point in their life or another. But there is no credible reason for one to cease moving forward and dwell on regret about the things you may have committed erroneously. You will feel terrible, you will regret it and you will apologize but you should in no way, waste a chunk of your time over something akin to spilled milk. Do not needlessly punish yourself by rehashing what you could have done right instead and by wasting valuable time. Accept that what is done is done, nothing can change that and that all you really have to do is to accept it and vow that should there be a next time, you would exercise more caution.
6.) Reframe your situation
When you spend most of your time in rumination or in deep contemplation, over thinking is going to be inevitable and distraction would not be so forthcoming. Because of this, anxiety will ensue. As it is, it would be necessary to try to reframe the situation in your head in such a way that it would not come out negative. Simply put, try to look for the silver lining of your bad situation or bad thought and complement it with a reassessment of the situation to placate yourself and keep you from engendering negative thoughts.
Your thoughts may be powerful but never let them overpower you and keep you from having a great day. Remember, your thoughts are only as powerful as you let them be—if you feed them with negative vibes then you will engender bad vibes while cultivating good vibes will give you not only positive thoughts but a positive and healthier outlook in life as well.
Harry Neal is a freelance writer and a blogger. He is currently writing for Paramount Direct, one of the top insurance company in the Philippines. He gives tips for life and accident insurance on his blog.