Stress at home can make life hard for many parents. While some stress is good to help with motivation, in the long run, stress can be a huge drain. Parents have enough on their plates to deal with without having to deal with extra stress from home. Approaching the issue of reducing stress, especially when children are involved, can seem nearly impossible. There are a few approaches every parent should try, and some of these may even help to eliminate certain sources of stress for good.
Remaining Neutral When the Kids Fight
Children fighting with each other or parents can be a huge cause of stress in the home. Siblings can bicker over the smallest things whether it’s who has to do what chore, not being allowed certain privileges or any other reason that can come up throughout the day. When it comes to children fighting, especially between each other, is to remain neutral. The conflict can usually be a minor one between siblings, but to them it’s important.
The most effective conflict management can be to listen to what each child has to say. Even when parents don’t agree with what their children are saying, listening itself is an effective tool. This shows children at the very least their voice is heard and can help to calm them down once they’re done bickering. Once a parent has listened to their child or children, they can work on finding a solution to the problem. Keeping a neutral standpoint also prevents either child from feeling the parent is favoring one sibling above the other.
Managing Time Effectively
Parents have a lot to do throughout the day, but especially at home. Home can involve a hectic daily routine that can quickly become stressful every day. This type of stress can quickly drain even the best of parents, and may even breed feelings of inadequacy. According to the Key Organization website, 59% of people who work from home say most of their stress comes from children or family demanding their attention.
The best way to conquer this stress is through effective time management. A good workflow can help a parent to not only focus, but stay ahead of what to expect at home. Preparing for situations ahead of time, for example dinner, can help to cut down on a lot of stress. Planning out meals throughout the week or preparing easy to make meals ahead of time can help to cut down on stress. Focusing on the situation in the present and preparing for the future can help to cut down on a lot of stress.
Focus on Finding the Resolution
Probably one of the biggest misunderstandings parents can make is ‘being right’ instead of finding the resolution to a problem or situation. This can usually happen when arguing with a child or another parent in the home. Falling into the trap of ‘winning’ or ‘being right’ to solve the situation. While arguing or becoming annoyed with people parents live with is completely normal, bickering in this fashion can lead the discussion in circles. There are better styles to conflict management that can be used to resolve the issue.
The best form of resolution is to remain neutral at the first sign of being combative or argumentative. Focus on finding a resolution to the problem through discussion or compromise. Trying to strong arm the other person out of the discussion will only lead to both people feeling frustrated in the situation. Forcing the other person to admit you’re ‘right’ in the current situation can also damage the relationship in the long run. This tactic should not be used unless it’s a life changing or threatening situation.
This is perhaps even more true for parents who have children. Children at one time or another may argue with parents over one topic or another. The best approach is to have a calm discussion about the situation at hand and to find the resolution.
Finding the resolution to cutting down stress in the home is very easy. Using these techniques simply requires patience and knowing how to approach each situation. Following this advice can help to cut down stress significantly not only at home, but in other areas of life too.